You know how it is, you might be a size 10 in your fave M&S jeans and then you head over to H&M and you can’t get a size 16 past your knees – welcome to the size war.
It is no wonder social and print media affects our self esteem when we are constantly being told that slim is ‘normal’ and larger ladies are ‘plus size.’ So when it comes to clothing it is easy to see how you could develop a complex by not fitting into the size you were expecting.
It was something that I used to let upset me, when I could fit into one size in one shop and then I went into another and it wasn’t happening, it made me question my body shape; was I actually bigger than I thought? I would measure my worth on fitting into a size that pleased me, regardless of comfort and what size I knew myself to be, and I would feel disappointed and disheartened when I didn’t fit into that size purely because of the number on the label.
Now for me the numbers don’t matter, I stopped caring a long time ago. But for someone who places importance on the number on the label, shopping can be hell. There is nothing like sweating your balls off to try and do up some buttons that makes you feel like a fat failure and I’m sure it’s happened to all of us. But instead of admitting defeat, go up a size, go up 4 sizes if you have to! Your life will be better when you stop caring about the numbers. Because it really doesn’t matter. It is insanely annoying that there isn’t standardised sizing for clothing and you have to find your own way. It is even crazier that stores seem to stock sizes small enough for children (hello Topshop jeans) but don’t accommodate for curvier figures above a size 12 (Zara I’m looking at you!). Even brands that do jeans by waist size don’t match up, how can a 28″ waist vary, if it’s 28″??!!
The thing is there is not just one body-type. You can’t just add a few inches on everywhere as you go up the size chart and expect it to fit everyone. You can be a size 12 who is flat chested with big hips, or a size 12 with an athletic build, or a size 12 with a large bust and long legs, there is no one-size fits all so we can’t all expect to fit into the same stuff! Although the high-street may not have cottoned onto this fact (or they have but it’s an expensive and not so quick-fix) it may mean that you just have to try on a whole bunch of sizes to work out what’s going to be best for you and that could be very different depending on where you shop.
For example when it came to this shirt, I should have definitely gone up a size, I ordered a size medium and I could do with a little more room to lift up my arms and breathe without having 4 boobs… Because I would always rather be comfortable than wear an item with a smaller number on the label!